Belongingness
Previously, we discussed how respect works. We add each other and various objects to our programs and get more resources for progressing with our behavior. As one of the options, we can apply this to groups, the basic building blocks of society. Why not? If group members' values are aligned with yours, you may choose to join that group and share resources with them.
We may call this "belongingness". It's often perceived as a fundamental motivation, but for us it's just yet another special case of a selection among our programs.
If you happen to be surrounded by groups that use patterns of behavior that are incompatible with yours, you may choose to either change your behavior and fit somewhere, or stay alone.
There is no right or wrong choice here. Changing patterns can be tricky. It takes energy. You need to reevaluate various stuff in your memory. The ghost of an inner child can appear, and you'll have to deal with that problem as well. It's a bit of a gamble, but at the end you may get lots of resources and evolve to a whole new level with your newly acquired behavior.
Staying alone keeps your memory intact. It's safe and doesn't require any actions. You can proceed with already existing programs and goals, but it's likely that your resources in the long run will be limited in comparison to the first choice.
Some people may invent a third option. Why don't you pretend? You can totally imitate a different pattern of behavior during an interview and get admitted to a group that doesn't fit you.
It's a terrible move that leads to hidden conflicts of values that tend to backfire. You won't really belong in that group. No need to lie to yourself. Either change, or step back.
Contrary to the widespread belief, lack of belonging doesn't lead to any psychological problems at all. Lack of progress due to the limited collective support is a different story.
It may destroy your high expectations and force you to discard programs in bulk (it should be visible in data flows around your reality checker). This process potentially pushes you into adaptive patterns (9) and (16), and if they are in an unresolvable conflict with your current behavior, it can cause severe malfunctions in the system. You'll have to discard even more programs, stabilizing this whole downfall situation.
However, if you have realistic expectations and calmly proceed with whatever you do without any internal conflicts, then you have nothing to worry about. Maybe one day you'll find a suitable group for yourself. Until then, enjoy your solitude!